Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women

Hobbes In The House/male Victims Of Domestic Abuse -- It Happens

MN Spokesman-Recorder Domestic abuse against men – it happens. You're going to have a hard finding statistics, because reluctant as many women are to report abusive husbands or boyfriends to the authorities, out of fear of his retaliation or because they've been conditioned to accept the abuse – men are even less likely to pick up the phone, dial 911 and say their wife or girlfriend just went upside their head or threw a pot at them." If a man has a hotheaded, heavy-handed woman to deal with, there are reasons he doesn't say or do anything about it except hope she doesn't wind up maiming or killing him. For one, it's embarrassing to have it look like she can whup his butt. For another, in certain states, all she has to do is, when the cops show up, claim she was defending herself and that she is in fear of him. Whether it's true or not, he promptly finds himself treated to a free ride downtown where he's accorded an insider's view of the county jail – from the wrong side of the bars. Now, if he happens to be gay and his husband or boyfriend has been roughing him up, he can't possibly know how the cop who shows up feels about homosexuality. For all he knows, the cop may drag them both off in handcuffs, abuser and victim alike. There is also the kind of abuse you can't report to police, because it's not illegal. Just as women are made to endure mental and emotional torture, there are men who put up with being treated like a doormat. She may constantly make snide, demeaning comments for no good reason. She may spitefully manipulate his feelings -- to read the rest of the article